Gentle Parenting and Raising a Family in the limelight ft. Rapper T.I. and Son King Harris
- New Mommy Life
- Nov 30, 2023
- 3 min read
Many have viewed the video that was shared on Instagram live via Rapper T.I.'s son King Harris
(@the_next_king10).
For those of you who do not know about the incident, the two of them had a father and son moment that has been sparking conversation about parenting, being raised in conditions of extreme affluence and opulence and furthermore how the limelight can be a contributing factor for any parent to feel more pressure with their parenting style or their children's behavior being scrutinized.
I know I have felt the intense pressure within my close circles and family members at times, especially when I announced the decision to homeschool my daughter and to then have to be subjected to all of the usual 'eye rolling', 'sighs' and 'gossip' behind my back... ( more on that in a future post ).
So as I watched a clip of the video via another mom I follow online share her thoughts about the incident, it took me back to a time of my own "public scrutiny" if you will, though I am far from a celebrity or public figure.
And to be perfectly frank - I have zero desire to become one.
I can only imagine what it must be like to grow up in a age where your every move is being watched in order to be documented and then distributed for complete strangers to weigh in on and pass judgements -- oftentimes being harsh judgements at that.
I say all of this to say that being a parent is not an easy task and truth be told none of us were given a blueprint with how to do it "right" and not make any "mistakes".
However, in the process of making the decision to become the best version of myself while remaining dedicated to my promise I made to myself to be the best parent I can be - which also includes me seeking out and asking for help and guidance from those with wisdom.
This lead me to research more into Gentle Parenting.
If you have not heard about this before, Gentle Parenting means you choose to set clear boundaries and underline what you are asking of your child.
You limit your request to focus on the action you do want to encourage. The idea behind gentle parenting is to approach kids with respect and empathy, to offer choices rather than make demands, to give space to the child's feelings and emotions and avoid losing your cool in frustrating situations.
Which is pretty easy to see why it's become such a popular parenting style.
From the details of the incident that happend this past Sunday, at the Mercedes-Benz Stadium in Atlanta during a game between the Falcons and New Orleans Saints. It was reported that during the shouting match that unforunatley turned physical, rapper T.I. is heard saying, “You are embarrassing yourself and your family.”
( pardon the explicit language below, it was sourced directly from T.I.’s instagram caption )
The following day, the Rapper took to his Instragram account to share the new episode of Complex's GOAT Talk with his son and writing on Instagram, “Fck what dis internet talkin bout... Da HFamily Tied Like a Knot 🪢We all We Got...4LIFE... Ima RIDE to da heavens or da depths of HELL bout my Jr.& ain’t nothing gon change that.”
While also sharing an event the two of them are hosting in Atlanta, showing how they have made amends and are working together.
All in all, this incident has caused many parents in various circles to weigh in on what was reported to have happened from the perspective of how they would have conducted themselves if there was ever a public disagreement in a place where it may or not be feasible to discuss the matter privately.
Family members are not always going to see eye-to-eye, and there will be disagreements -- we're all human and no one is perfect.
Though, I for one, am not at all happy about this news story being publicized, as these type of family disputes can be taken to another level when so many opinions from others on the outside can fuel the fire.
Yet, from a healing perspective, it's good to see how family is always the cornerstone of what provides our children with the ability to go out in the world with confidence as they carve out their own path while they contribute to the legacy we're striving (in my opinion, we all should) to leave.
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